Dating 101: Tips for teen girls to stay grounded while dating

Dating 101: Tips for teen girls to stay grounded while dating

By Cathy Green-Miner
When it comes to boys and dating, it can be pretty baffling, especially since the teen dating scene has changed since your parents were your age. Your parents can help you get over the hurdle of boys, but that may be a hard task. Even the first family may have to deal with their daughters dating. However, President Barack Obama said in an interview with People – and cited by Essence – that he isn’t worried because he and the first lady have set a strong foundation for their daughters and “they have pretty high expectations about how relationships should be.”
Dating can be a positive experience. It allows couples to get to know each other better. It also helps you learn more about yourself and your boundaries. However, before you dive in head first, there are some things you need to know before you say yes to that special someone:

Ask your parents what are the dating rules in the house. Your parents or guardians may want to get to know your date and your date’s family first. Dating rules also may include curfew times, transportation, age restrictions, venue restrictions, etc. Open communication between parents and teens is important for maintaining a good family relationship.

Consider group dating. Group dates can be ideal when you are surrounded by friends who like to have fun and whose parents are on board with the dating scene.

Make sure your date has similar values as you. Does he have respect for you, respect for your feelings or respect toward your parents? Does he value education? Does he have a deep spirituality? Does he respect your “no,” “don’t” and “stop”?

Be willing to learn more about yourself through this relationship. You will make mistakes in relationships, but hopefully, you’ll also learn from them and become a better judge of character. You must also know your deal breakers —those negative behaviors that tell you it’s time to move on. Pay attention to those red flags such as physical or verbal abuse, dishonesty, drug use, etc., and run for the hills!

Most importantly, HAVE FUN! Nobody likes a sour puss – so drop the drama and enjoy. Having positive energy and a kind spirit will attract like-minded people.